A Multitude of Problems
Things just don't seem to be going to right lately. But you know what? I'm really not going to let it bother me, because when I think about it I only get more pissed off, and thats never a good thing. Although I do listen to a lot of angry music when I'm pissed, especially Linkin Park for some reason. Hell, for half of February and all of March I don't think I listened to anything except Linkin Park (for when I was angry), Dashboard Confessional (for when I wanted to get depressed) and Jeff Buckley (for no real reason other than I just discovered his stuff and found it to be really good). So today has definitely been a Linkin Park day, and so will the drive home, in my mom's truck.
Yup, my car is still messed up. I picked it up this morning with a brand new set of spark plugs in it and didn't get two feet from the place before I knew I'd have to bring it back. Thankfully I was right around the corner from my mom's office, so I pulled in and told her to follow me right back to the mechanic where I dropped my car back off. I drove her to her office and took her truck into work.
I just heard back from the mechanic and Elena's dad, since he referred me to this place to begin with, and now they think they finally found the cause of the problem, the catalytic covnerter (whatever that does, I don't really know cars, just computers). Turns out the bad spark plugs were causing raw fuel to go into the exhaust system, which was causing that to get clogged which caused the catalytic converter to fail which I'm sure impacted the transmission somehow. I don't know, like I said, I don't know cars. I trust that Elena's dad wouldn't send me someplace that would screw me, so I'm sure the car needed the transmission anyway. So, the catalytic converter will run me $200, so tack that onto the $1650 I paid for the tranny, and the $130 for the spark plugs and we're talking almost $2000 of work I've had done in the past week. Oh joy! So much for paying off some of my credit cards some more. Oh well, what am I going to do? I need a car that runs, right?
So onto the next thing thats making me mad, and that would be Elena. Yup, thats right, my girlfriend that I love so much, has ticked me off royaly. I'll explain. I haven't really spoken to the girl for more than 3 minutes at a time in about a week, and I don't like that. So I called her last night when I got home from work. I knew she was working a shift at the restaurant she waits tables at, so I left a message saying that if she wasn't too tired when she got home to give me a call, because we haven't really talked in awhile and I just wanted to talk. Is that so much to ask?
In the meantime I ran out to the ATM to get money to pay for my car and to Best Buy for some DVD's and CD's. On the way I get a voice mail from Elena telling me to call her. When I call her she says that someone stole her wallet from work and then she said she had to go because she couldn't talk. Again, a 3 minute call. At that I got a little upset, so I asked her when can she talk for more than 3 minutes at a time, at which she pressed me on what I wanted to talk about specifically, I said nothing I just want to talk, about the usual crap that we spend time talking about. She said she didn't know, because she's really busy.
And thats what really ticked me off, because I've heard it so many times before and I like it less and less everytime I hear it. Too busy. Too busy to give me a half hour of your time to talk to your boyfriend who has bent over backwards ten times over to do things for you to make a long distance relationship work? See, she's busy because she's finally getting around to working on her paper that she needs to get her Master's. Its due in September before she leaves and she's only had, oh, the WHOLE SUMMER to work on it, but starts now. So she says between now and when I go to London to see her and help her move stuff home, that when she's not work at one of her two jobs that she'll be busy working on her paper. So, she procrastinates all summer, has a bad day and takes it out on me? Yeah, thats fair.
Now, I realize that I'm a nice guy, and probably too nice. I know I do too much for her, but I don't mind it, as long as I feel appreciated, and I hate it when I feel like my kindness and generosity is being taken advantage of, and this is one of those moments. Is talking to me really so much to ask? I think not. So I told her to call me when she can talk and hung up. I have absolutely no intention of calling her. Hell, when she calls me I'm not taking the call. Thats why they invented voice mail. She can stew for awhile without talking to me. Can you tell I'm pissed? I am.
So that's that. I'm thinking of starting a pool amongst friends and coworkers that I've told the story to in order to see how long it takes her to call me. Should be interesting. My bet would be on Monday or Tuesday. Any takers?
Comments
If you're starting to play these kinds of games with each other, I think it's safe to say your relationship is in trouble. And from this post, it looks like the trouble is coming from both sides. She doesn't have time to talk to you? Since when does a woman not want to talk to someone she loves?
And you're keeping score in the relationship. When you start to add up the score, you'll find that it equals disaster.
I wish you luck. If she's still interested in you, you can get through the problems of long distance, but it takes work and patience.
Posted by: Joe | August 25, 2004 3:29 PM