I leave for the train station in about 20 minutes. Heading into good old NYC to meet T for the first time. We're going to go and check out the Museum of Modern Art, or MoMA as its more commonly known. We'll hang out there for awhile and then she needs to leave to catch a 4:30 train home to babysit tonight. Then I shall head to Seth's place to hang out for awhile. Should be fun. I'll let you know how it all goes in the near future, I promise.
Headed to NYC
April 30, 2005
Road Trip Confirmed!
April 26, 2005
UPDATE: Two tickets have been purchased by Seth to go see Pearl Jam, live and in concert, in Montreal, Quebec on September 15th. This is going to be awesome. I cannot wait.
Road Trip to Canada! Who's Coming With Me?
I don't think you can possibly wake up to better news than this (at least I don't think so!). Keyser woke me up at like 5 AM and when I crashed back into bed after walking and feeding him, I opened up my laptop and checked my mail. In came an e-mail from Ten Club, the official Pearl Jam fan club of which I am proudly a member. Honestly, its the best use of $15 a year, hands down. The message basically said the following:
In preparation for their upcoming studio release (that alone was awesome news to hear) Pearl Jam is doing a 15 city tour of the great nation of Canada in September. The closest city in Canada, I think, I don't know Canadian geography that well, is Montreal. After looking it up at Google, its only about 350-400 miles away from NYC, so I'm looking at a 6 horu drive. I left a message for Seth this morning, but haven't heard back from him yet (he's an even bigger Pearl Jam fan that I am).
We've been talking about going to San Francisco to see them do this acoustic benefit every year, but never get around to it. This sounds much more doable than that. Plus, Canada is like the only place in the world where the exchange rate actually works in your favor, so staying there would be cheaper. I'm hoping it works out. I have until May 5th or 6th to order my tickets through the fan club.
So I'm excited. Canada in September, with Pearl Jam just sounds awesome to me.
Need Sleep
April 25, 2005
I really need to stop this destructive habit of staying up late talking to people, because although its fun at the time, its killing me come the morning and especially during the following day of work. Its murder, let me tell you. I've been fighting to keep my eyes open at my desk all afternoon. Driving home should be all kinds of interesting too. Thankfully I just read a report that said the Jetta was the highest rated vehicle in its class as far as safety in various crash tests. Granted it was the New Jetta, not my Jetta, but I still feel good because I have the airbags and side curtain ones too. Hopefully I can make it home without needing them to go off.
On the female front, I'm still talking to T and K. K is starting to get a little weird though. After not being cool with my honesty the other night for all of a day, she decided the next day that she was cool with me talking to and seeing other girls and now she wants to get together and watch Star Wars, because she's never seen it. And she wants to watch it during a weekend coming up when her roommate will be away on vacation. How come I have a feeling that when and if I ever do watch Star Wars with this girl that I'm going to be attacked in a sexual manner? Just a feeling I get. But hey, thats her call. I said the ball was in her court when it came to that stuff, since its up to her whether or not she's comfortable with the situation, because I am no matter what.
I've spoken to T until 2 AM the past two nights, which although has left me tired, irritable and just plain out of it, it was all worth it as she seems to be a really cool girl to talk to. I'm hoping we can get together in NYC sometime this weekend for an afternoon or something. We'll see. I guess I should bring it up next time I talk to her, which should be tonight if I can manage to make it home in one piece and then stay conscious for at least a short while. Thats about it thats going on with that stuff.
Work is boring, obviously, since the only thing I can focus on is just how insanely heavy my eyelids feel. I know if I close my eyes I'm done for, I'm that tired.
Alright, only 1 hour and 15 minutes until quitting time. Wish me luck getting home!
No TV and No Internet Make Matt Go...
April 24, 2005
Crazy! A whole morning without cable TV or the Internet. What is a boy to do? Sleep, mostly. Woke up this morning to a dead TV and no Internet. Its amazing just how much we rely on these things to help pass the day sometimes. I wouldn't say I'm addicted to these things, but its comforting to know I can looks something up whenever the inspiration strikes me, and I don't like it when I can't. Thats all I'm going to say to defend my addiction.
So Passover was nice. Of course my friend Brett never showed up. I told him 8 or 8:30, he said probably closer to 9 or 10. He calls at 10:30 and I'm already in my pajamas and watching TV in my bed. He asks if its too late to come by. I say yes, for the previously stated reason. Then, he tried to guilt trip me by asking if I want to meet his girlfriend. I said yes, but again, it was late and I was already in my pajamas. Hopefully he'll show up at Seth's tonight otherwise I'll probably not hear the end of it for a week because he was late getting somewhere. Something sound wrong there? Yeah I think so too.
I broke ties with S last night via IM. Yeah, it was probably a cheesy way to do it, but I only met the girl once, I don't think I owed her a face to face or a phone call. Hopefully she'll respect my wishes and not contact me. So far so good. Nothing worse than a psycho, which K was showing signs of Thursday and Friday. As of Thursday she didn't want to talk to me anymore because of what I told her Wednesday night about me meeting and talking to other people. Then sometime Thursday night and into Friday morning she said she still wants to talk to me and see me. Weird, but whatever. I'll see where it leads.
I spoke to T on the phone for a good two hours last night, which was nice. The conversation flowed and we didn't run out of things to talk about, which was good. Hopefully we can meet up in the city one weekend soon, as that seems to be the only place equidistant to us both. I was thinking if the weather was nice walking around Central Park, or checking out a museum, as I haven't been to one in the city in a long time. Thought it might make a good first date. Who knows. We shall see.
Alright, back to relaxing the rest of my weekend away as there is work to be attending tomorrow. What fun.
Passover
April 23, 2005
Happy Passover to any Jewish people out there. I'm taking a break from the whole family and friends over my house at the moment. My friend Brett is supposed to stop by later with his new girlfriend, chances are he'll be here at 11 PM and think he's on time, when I told him to be here at 8. Typical Brett, but what can you do?
OK, so update on the dating situation as it gets more complex by the minute. I still have not heard from A all week long and I'm honestly not losing any sleep over it. While I thought K would be out of the picture after I told her of my need to meet as many people as possible, it turns out I must've had a greater impact on her than I thought, as she's now OK with it, although the ball is in her court as to what type of behavior is acceptable and whatnot, because she doesn't want to feel like she's being used. Fair enough (something I find myself saying a lot these days and I have no idea why). I met up with S last night and I'll just say she wasn't what I was expecting and I honestly don't think it would work between us, so now I have to find a way out of the situation before it goes any further. I guess thats just part of dating, you'll get rejected, you have to reject others and somehow move on with anyone else that is out there. I still haven't spoken to T on the phone yet, though possibly tonight, hopefully. I'm still trying to think of the logistics of seeing a girl that lives a few counties away, especially when NYC is in between, but who knows. We'll see. And in the meantime I'm pursuing all leads with the various dating services I'm signed up to.
As an interesting sidenote, as I talk to all these people all hours of the day I find myself exhausted physically. I'm definitely not sleeping enough as I'm up late either out with these girls, on the phone with them or IM'ing them. I think I spent most of today in bed, trying to recover from drinking too much last night. Hopefully things will settle down eventually and I can go back to a normal existence. Plus we've been moving people daily at work as the renovation of the office is finishing up, so every afternoon at 3 or 4 its a juggling act of moving 8 or so people around, complete with phones and computers and once its all done, I'm shot for the rest of the day, but then go out or talk to people instead of resting. I guess its just a necessary evil then, huh?
Alright, back to the family. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. Adios for now.
The Dating Game
April 21, 2005
Wow, its amazing how quickly things can change in this crazy game we call the dating scene. Here's the lastest news, and I apologize if you've been waiting for more, I've been busy at work and exhausted at night, which isn't helped by the fact that I'm been staying up late and getting no sleep.
So it looks like both A and K are both out of the picture and here's the explanation. After my date with A we talked a couple times but never managed to get together as she was busy finishing up the semester of law school. I last heard from her on Sunday and we talked for 5 minutes, tops. Her birthday was on Tuesday so I left her a Happy Birthday e-mail and voice mail and didn't hear back from her. So now its up to get to reopen the lines of communication, because I'm not going to. I reached out, my part is done. Either she is realyl busy with school or isn't interested anymore. Either way I'm fine with that.
Onto K. We met up all of three times, last night being the last time. Things were going well, we got along, we liked eachother, we kissed. I could feel the potential there for it to turn into something serious, but I don't want to rush into anything right now. Just broke up less than two months ago. Don't need to start something up so quickly. Also, in between our second and third date I started talking to two other girls I met through the various online dating services I subscribe too (I paid good money, I want to get my 3 months worth). So I decided before things got too serious that I would tell her that I've been talking to and seeing other people because I'm at a point in my life where thats what I want to do. I want to meet people and not limit my options to just one. If something were to develop, that'd be OK, but I wasn't going to rush into anything and I didn't want a serious committment now.
When we left last night she seemed to be OK with it, but after a flurry of e-mails today she decided that its probably best to not get involved with me at this point in my life, and I'm fine with that. I don't know what I want and I want to get to know me a little better too. Plus, she was coming on a little too strong for my tastes. So that is that.
Now the two new girls. They shall be known as S and T.
T is 22 and is currently attending grad school in the city. She is Jewish, which is a plus. But she lives north of the city, which is a negative, but she says she's moving into the city this summer, so we'll see. No phone conversations yet, but in due time. She loves TV and music like I do, so we can talk about that a lot. But there's still the living a few counties away. That'll be tough as I don't like being limited to weekends to see someone, hence my problems with Elena.
S is 28 (an older woman, scandalous!) lives about 20 minutes or so away from me, which is much closer than north of NYC. She's a 7th grade math teacher and is also really tall, like 5'11, and Jewish. Another plus. We share the love of 2 major sports team, the Rangers for hockey and the Jets for football, which is awesome. We've talked on the phone and so far we've hit it off well. We'll probably meet up sometime next week, so we shall see.
So thats where I'm at. I'm looking forward to going home and going to sleep. Hope everyone is well. Adios for now.
From The Strangest Places
April 19, 2005
OK, I'm going to try to make this my last complaint post about Elena for as long as possible. Lets just say I heard something that I find strangely inspirational and makes me feel better about everything. Of course it has to come from the oddest place I can think of and I risk emasculating myself by admitting it. I was flipping through a playlist on my iPod trying to get to nine inch nails new song (which I still can't stop listening to, With Teeth drops early may!) and the scroll wheel stopped on the following song. I thought about the lyrics in my head for a second and I thought that was just what I needed to hear.
Kelly Clarkson's "Since U Been Gone"
I know, I'm just as shocked as you must be, but let me explain. By all rights I should hate Kelly Clarkson. Elena's favorite TV show was and probably still is American Idol, so right off the bat I should hate Kelly Clarkson simply because of that connection, but I can't help it, I like the song. Plus I just have something against people that put the letter U in their songs to sound cool instead of using you, like normal people would. So at the sake of coming off slightly lame, I present to you the lyrics for Kelly Clarkson's "Since U Been Gone" Enjoy!
It was cool but it was all pretend
Yeah yeah
Since U Been Gone
You dedicated you took the time
Wasn't long till I called you mine
Yeah Yeah
Since U Been Gone
And all you'd ever hear me say
Is how I pictured me with you
That's all you'd ever hear me say
But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
I'm so movin on
Yeah yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get
What I want
Since U Been Gone
How can I put it? You put me on
I even fell for that stupid love song
Yeah yeah
Since U Been Gone
How come I'd never hear you say
I just wanna be with you
I guess you never felt that way
But Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
Im so movin on
Yeah yeah
Thanks to you
Now I get
I get what I want
Since U Been Gone
You had your chance you blew it
Out of sight, out of mind
Shut your mouth I just can't take it
Again and again and again and again
Since U Been Gone
I can breathe for the first time
Im so movin on
Yeah yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get
I get what I want
I can breathe for the first time
Im so movin on
Yeah yeah
Thanks to you (thanks to you)
Now I get (I get)
You should know (you should know)
That I get
I get what I want
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
Since U Been Gone
What The Hell Is Wrong With Me?
Despite the fact that I'm trying to get to know as many new women as possible, I still think about Elena, mainly think about calling her and sharing all of the realizations I've had since my breakup with her. The really odd thing is, I'm fine for most of the day and the urge to call her doesn't come into my head at all. It only pops in there when I'm driving home from work. That one hour is a constant battle in my mind of call vs. don't call. I'm getting pretty sick of it. Luckily I haven't broken down yet and actually done it. Seth talked me out of it last night and I see the point.
Yes, telling her everything I've been thinking about would bring me closure and yes I would be putting her down and belittling her somewhat. But, the more I think about, the more I feel like thats not such a bad thing. I don't think I'd feel like an ass for saying those things when everything is said and done, because honestly, she deserves it and deserves to hear it. But Seth's point was that she's a selfish bitch (which is right on the mark) and that it would probably affect her for an hour, then she'd blow it off and go to an audition. So I have a feeling that me talking to her, while would have the desired effect on me and make me feel better, it wouldn't have the desired effect on her, because it won't make her feel like the piece of crap sorry excuse for a human being that she is.
So, at Seth's urging, I will continue to take the moral high ground and not call. I will continue the process of moving on by continuing to meet as many people as possible and avoid getting into a committed relationship again before I'm really ready for it. And, most importantly, I will learn from my past relationships and all the mistakes I made and not make them again. Simple as that. End of rant.
Lazy/Boring Weekend
April 17, 2005
Damn I have done absolutely nothing of substance this weekend, and it feels good. It feels boring, but good. I have a feeling a hectic week of work, chock full of moving secretaries while they complete office renovations, so I think the relaxing will do me good. Plus, after the action packed weekend that was last weekend, it's kind of good to have nowhere to go and no one to see. So far I've managed to watch a ton of bonus stuff on the DVD's for The Incredibles and Finding Nemo. I don't know why I'm in a Pixar mood, but I am. Maybe I love Pixar because they make some awesome movies. Plus, the fact that Steve Jobs, CEO of my favorite computer company, Apple, is also the CEO of Pixar. Hmmm? Interesting.
Anyway, so besides the DVD watching I also have been playing around with installing Linux on an old PC I snagged from work. There are like 40 somewhat decent PC's laying around our work room, so I grabbed one to play around with. After trying to install four or five different flavors or distributions of Linux and Unix I finally found one that would install. Granted it had to download everything it needed during the installation, and it was over 5 GB worth of stuff. It took all day yesterday to download and finished installing this morning. So now I have a running Linux box (what we computer geeks refer to as a computer, sometimes), with SuSe 9.2 on it. What will I do with my new toy? Probably nothing as I know nothing about programming or anything else Linux is good for. I surf the web, chat, e-mail, listen to music and do digital pictures on my laptop, thats all. Hell, Mac OS X is really Unix already (Linux is based on Unix, sort of) with just a really pretty and easy to use interface. Alright, I'll stop being a geek now.
So how do things stand on the lady front? No dates this weekend with either A or K as they both were busy. Hopefully this week I'll be able to get together with each of them. Like I said, I'm not rushing things, and am going to take my time getting to know as many people as possible. I just got out of an almost 2 year relationship, I want to have some fun. I don't need to settle down tomorrow. I actually also started IM'ing this girl that e-mailed me on Match.com, so we'll see how that goes. I also reminded Seth to remind Shari, his girlfriend, that I'm still open to meeting someone her friend wanted to set me up with. I'm keeping my options open. Am I becoming a male slut? I don't think so. I don't think I would even be capable of it.
Thats about it for me. Hope everyone is having a pleasant weekend. I know I am. Adios.
Date Recap
April 15, 2005
So the date with K went well. We met at the place, which thankfully was pretty close to my house and where she works. Kind of equidistant, I think. Anyway, had a good meal of burritos and sangria which gave off a slight buzz. Had some good conversation as I related to her the story of Passover, which I didn't know too well. In my defense, I admit I'm a bad Jew, and haven't been to temple in close to 8 years.
After dinner we got some Italian ices at a place right next door to the burrito bar and we went and sat in my car and talked as we ate. The night came to a close and we hugged and kissed goodbye. This kiss was definitely less awkward than the one with A, but much more sloppy, if thats even the correct word for it. Lets just say I wasn't expecting tongue, and I'm sorry if thats TMI, but its what happened. Not that I'm complaining, it just threw me off guard. And her too apparently, as she seemed to be putting forth so much effort that she nearly tripped and fell, but I prevented it from being bad.
After that we went our seperate ways. It sounds like she's got a busy weekend coming up, along with A too, as she's knee deep in preparation for law school finals. So after the action-packed weekend I had last week it'll be nice to have a calm one this week. And who knows, maybe one of them will be free at some point to get together. I'm not worried and kind of want to take it slow with both to give them an equal shot.
So that's what happened. Back to work!
Date Tonight
April 14, 2005
So I am slated to go out to dinner with K tonight. It should be interesting to say the least. We've been exchanging e-mails filled with sexual innuendo's all week. Why? I have no idea. Sometimes I think I just have nothing better to do than to let my dirty mind roam free. Plus, e-mail is the perfect place to drop such comments, as you don't have to worry about a slap to the face. So far though, she's been giving it back to me just as well. I'll post a recap tomorrow letting everyone know how it went.
On the A front, I still haven't had a chance to see her since our date last Friday, but we have talked a bunch. She's really busy at the moment finishing up her semester of law school. Hopefully she'll have more time to hang out and such when finals are over. I hope so as I thought we got along really well and enjoyed each other's company. I'll just have to do my best to hold off any decision making until they've both had an equal shot. Hell, I may not want to pursue a relationship with either of them. At this point, I don't know, so I'm just going to have as much fun as possible figuring it out.
In other news, today was payday, and between credit cards, my car, gas, mutual funds and my savings account I have very little of my paycheck left over. I'll have to budget extremely well in the coming two weeks. On the bright side, my raise went into effect April 1, so at least half of my check was at my new pay rate. So the next paycheck should be even bigger. I got the same raise I got last year, as far as pay per week, so its only a slightly lower percentage of a raise, but still better than the standard around here. So I'm happy.
In other news, I've finally settled my cell-phone quandry and decided to go with the Motorola RAZR V3. I've wanted a flip phone for awhile, and it just looks cooler than the blackberry phone, or the swivel phone I wanted. Plus, its the same phone that Jennifer Garner uses on Alias. No, thats not the reason I decided on that, but basically because in the next version of the Mac OS, which comes out in two weeks, they'll support syncing with that phone, whereas they don't now. I've become spoiled by the syncing, as I never have to program in a number, just change it on my laptop, and it'll sync wirelessly to my phone. So I'm holding off buying the phone until I get the new OS on the 29th as I don't want to have to type in all my numbers. That would just suck.
Alright, back to work and trying to find a way to kill the rest of the day so I can go home and get ready for tonight. Wish me luck!
Harvey Danger Was Right
April 12, 2005
There was a lyric in that one-hit wonder Harvey Danger song, "Flagpole Sitta" that I always enjoyed, and I think it applies here: "Been around the world and found that only stupid people are breeding, the cretins cloning and feeding"
Weekend Recap
April 11, 2005
Sorry for the delay in posting this if you've been anxiously awaiting to hear how my weekend went. It was quite exhausting and I tried to stay as unplugged from my laptop as I possibly could. Plus I just wanted to do it in one fell swoop and not in little pieces. So here it goes.
I got out of work on time on Friday and headed home and worked out the details of the date with A. She felt bad about me coming to pick her up as the place we were going was close to my house, so I'd have to go get her, drive there, then drive her back, then drive back home so she thought it would be better if we just met there. I agreed and it meant we could actually eat earlier than I thought, which was good, because I was starving. So we went to this place called Dave and Busters, which is basically a restaurant with a huge video game arcade attached to it. Its actually kind of nice though, not cheesy kiddy, if thats what you're imagining. So we had a nice meal with some nice conversation, got a good buzz going and decided to hit the game room.
We started out playing some driving/racing game, while drinking beer, because real drinking and driving is bad, but virtual drinking and driving is fun. Racing was fun and she actually beat me once or twice. After wasting a ton of money on this dumb shooting game we moved on to the prize games and actually put together enough tickets to buy 4 shot glasses. I know, such an alcoholic. But acceptance is the first step to recovery. After we cashed in for prizes and headed out. After a really awkward kiss good night we parted ways (I need to get better and much more confident about stuff like that. As I get more comfortable hopefully it'll be a lot less awkward in the future).
Saturday I spent the day taking Keyser to get a bath and then proceeded to play XBox all day. I just got the greatest game in the world, that combines two of my favorite things of all time, Star Wars and LEGO. You basically play through Episodes I, II and III of Star Wars, but as LEGO figures, and everything is made out of LEGO. Its hilarious, and a ton of fun. Saturday night I waited for ever and a day for Brett to come to my house so we could go out to eat and drink. He just got screwed out of becoming chief of his volunteer fire department, so he needed to get drunk, which he did. We headed to our favorite local brewery, John Harvards and had a good time. Seth came by with his girlfriend Shari, who insisted on doing shots with me. Needless to say it was a rough night, but I had a blast.
Sunday I didn't want to get out of bed, for obvious reasons. I spent most of the day just lounging around, watching TV and movies. Watched one of my favorite movies of all time for the first time in a long time, Fight Club. Great stuff. So 7:32 rolled around and I met K for a drink or two, and John Harvards, no less. I can't complain, between the two nights in a row I was there I drank 6 of the 8 different beers they had on tap. I would've gone for the final two, but that would've looked bad. So the meeting with K went really well too and we have plans to go have dinner sometime this week. Its weird, I knew the meeting would go well, but I think I was hoping it wouldn't so I could just make the choice already, but it didn't happen. So I guess I'll need to let this play out a little more.
So that was my weekend. Now its Monday and I'm exhausted. Thankfully the day is almost half over and lunch time is coming up. I can't wait to get out of here and go home and crawl into bed. Hope everyone is having a better Monday than me.
Action Packed Weekend
April 8, 2005
So its going to be a busy weekend for me, for a change, and its a good thing. Hopefully I'll be able to get out of work at a decent time and if I'm interpreting the text message that A sent me at 2 AM, we're going out tonight, and not Saturday. My plan was to go to this great little Mexican place in town by me, maybe some Cold Stone for dessert, and then who knows what else. I'll go wherever the night takes me.
On Saturday, if I'm free, which like I said, I should be, will be spent hanging out with my friends, which is always a good thing. Seth and Brett and I haven't hung out together in awhile, so I'm looking forward to getting together with both of them all at once. Brett said he needs to get drunk after his volunteer Fire Department screwed him out of being elected chief, something he was counting on, so he said he needs to get drunk. Thats not a problem, honestly. I'm happy to oblige there.
Sunday night, at exactly 6:47 PM (as per her instructions) I'm meeting K for a drink, or possibly dinner at someplace close to my house. So who knows whats going to happen with that. All told, sounds like I'm going to be exhausted come Monday, but isn't that what the weekend is for? To me, its either to relax and generally be a lazy bastard, or, its to do the things you can't do during the week. And I'm going with the latter.
On a side note, is it weird that today, April 8th, would've marked my two year anniversary with Elena and I'm going out on basically a first date with someone else? I just find it interesting, thats all.
Have a great weekend everyone! Hopefully I will too! Wish me luck!
Everybody's Working For The Weekend
April 7, 2005
I don't even know who sings that cheesy 80's, or was it a 70's song? My point is that the weekend needs to get here already as my social calendar is packed and I'm looking forward to this weekends events. It breaks down as follows. I'm going out with A on either Friday or Saturday night. Where, I have no idea yet, I'll figure out. I'm still trying to figure out the when, more specifically. Once I know the when, I can finalize my plans to meet K for a drink somewhere. I already said Saturday when I thought I had definite plans with A on Friday, but they may change to Saturday, in which case K will have to be pushed back to Sunday sometime.
Damn, this is really getting difficult to schedule. I know I won't be able to keep this up for long before I have to let one go. Of course I'll have to hang out with each a few times first, but I'm not looking forward to having to brush one off. I'd string it along for as long as possible, but thats not the type of person I am, and besides, I can't afford to date two people! More details to come as soon as I get them!
In other news, had to make another run to Elena's house to replenish my supply of Herbalife. Thankfully all went off without a hitch as it looked like no one was home. I made a quick exchange and headed out of there. And, after dropping $337, that stuff better last me more than a month, and I better take it seriously as its too expensive to slack off. In my defense, I have been doing great. Since the end of January alone I've dropped like 23 pounds. Not bad, right? Granted I have another 20 or so to go before I get to where I once was and I'll want to drop just a little more after that. We'll see. One pound at a time.
Alright, back to boring work. Adios for now.
Meeting for Coffee
April 5, 2005
Word of advice out there to everyone. When meeting someone for the first time, doing it in a really small Starbucks over coffee, where the heat is amplified by the fact that you're nervois as hell and start to sweat, is not a good idea. Thankfully, she was just as nervous and turning various shades of red. It was a good thing that by the end of our 30 minute chat I dried off and she turned back to a normal shade for one's complexion.
Other than that, the meeting over coffee with A went very, very well I think. After the initial weirdness, and nervousness we settled down and had a nice little talk, too short for sure, but she had to get back to class. At the end of it I asked her out on a proper date and she said yes, so thats a very good thing. Now the only thing left it to iron out the details.
I also had my first phone conversation with K and that went well too. She's got a very different personality from A, thats for sure, but not in a bad way. We'll see how that progresses as well. In the meantime I'm going to keep getting to know both until its time to make some kind of choice. My mom was asking me about talking on the phone last night and I said I was talking to someone other than A, which she already knew about because of the 20 question interrogation she gave me the other night. She said it was a bad idea and that I'd get caught, and I just said that I was trying to meet as many people as possible, so thank you everyone for backing me up.
Alright, back to work!
Wish Me Luck!
April 4, 2005
I'm meeting A for coffee at the Starbucks in between her school and my office (they're probably about a mile apart) in less than an hour and I'm scared out of my wits. I know I have nothing to worry about, but I still can't help it. Hopefully all will go well, I won't make a total ass out of myself and I can proceed to having a proper date.
Here's where it gets interesting though. I told K that I'd give her a call, our first phone conversation, tonight, after 6, which would put it at the point that A would have to leave for class, so it fits. Its just getting difficult juggling the two at once and seeing which one will come out on top. I know that sounds so bad, but I can't help it. I want to meet as many people as I can and I don't want to rule anyone out before I've had a chance to talk to them or at the most meet them.
Am I being a pig? Is what I'm doing wrong? Let me know.
Back In The Swing of Things
April 1, 2005
Wow, so its April already. That makes me very happy, as you can tell, March was definitely an interesting month for me. But its a new month and time for a new me. I'm definitely moving on and putting all of March's madness (ha ha) in the past. And what better way to move on from a breakup than to meet someone new? Honestly, I was getting tired of sitting around and thinking about things too much. I've decided I need to think of someone new and concentrate on that. After signing up, or just simply reactivating, some of the online dating accounts I used two years ago when I met Elena (thank you match.com, not paying too much attention to that one!) So after a few weeks there are two girls that I'm talking to a lot recently. One I met on eHarmony which is supposed to scientifically match you up with someone you're compatible with after you take an insanely long personality test, and the other I met on JDate, a website for Jewish singles. (Hell, never dated a Jewish girl, I figure I might as well see what its like).
In the name of not divulging too much, I'll simply refer to them by initials, as most people do in instances like this. eHarmony girl is K, JDate girl is A. Here's a little about both.
K is my age, 26, she lives a few towns over, not too far a drive from my house. We actually went to the same college upstate, until I transferred my junior year to be closer to home. She works in the corporate office of a bank, working with real estate closings it seems. She came on really strong and I think has since backed off a bit, but I like talking to her. She's funny and we have some interesting conversations. Haven't spoken on the phone yet, but I'm sure thats going to happen soon. She's tall, like 5'9" which is a bonus, as I've never dated anyone over 5'3".
A is 23, soon to be 24, so a little younger than me. She lives a little closer to me than K does, but lives with her parents whereas K lives with a friend of hers in an apartmnet. A is currently going to law school at nights, right down the road from my office actually. She just started working at a law firm basically right down the road from one of m firms office, so we have that in common. She's also tall, like 5'10" and loves dogs (both do actually). We've talked on the phone, for a good chunk of time yesterday and today. I'm hoping to actually get together with her soon, for like coffee or a drink or something, so we'll see if that happens soon, maybe even tonight, who knows.
So I guess you can see who I'm leaning towards, but who knows, that could change and they both may not want to know me further. What matters is I'm getting back out there and at the same time, trying to be more confident. I remember I was nervous as hell when I first asked Elena out on the phone, but today I asked A if she wanted to go for that cup of coffee or drink like it was no big thing, so that felt good. So things are definitely improving over here, and I'm happy.
Have a great weekend everyone, hopefully I will too.

